My crush of the week is Soren Kierkegaard. He is a father of existentialism. His writings are filled with ironies as he challenged the philosophers prior. His focus was on the existence of man. To be a person is to be an ongoing event. He was very personable and well liked in society, but he felt disconnected and alone. The way he got rid of this melancholic feeling was by committing himself entirely to God. This also resulted in him breaking off his engagement.
"Kierkegaard claimed he wanted to force Regine away from him, so she would marry another man. It is possible he did not think himself worthy. It is also possible he did not want to deal with the emotions associated with romance. Regardless, he tried to be “indifferent” and drive Regine out of his life. In later years, Kierkegaard called his destruction of the relationship a “self-inflicted wound” that caused him a great deal of misery. If he cared for Regine, as many believe Kierkegaard did, his need to avoid a relationship is not easily understood by most people."
Soren spent the rest of his life and his writings convincing himself that he had done the right thing. Regine married a Danish Sea Captain and moved in Brazil. When Soren died, he left all of his writings and property to her- hoping that through his writings he would somehow understand why he pushed her away. He felt marrying her would be unfair, as she would always be in his shadow. He loved her so much he tried to force her to live the life he knew would make her more happy. He never married. When Regine's husband died, she moved back to Denmark and spent the rest of her life going through his writings and trying to get him recognized as a national treasure. True love never dies.